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A short, funny video about learning from the best. Thank you all for enduring the worst. Press play below. MAC users click here. Uses Windows Media Player.

Press play above for "She Will Be Loved" from Maroon 5's 2004 Songs About Jane. One of the best expressions of human connection I've ever heard. Lyrics below.

"She Will Be Loved"

by Maroon 5


Beauty queen of only eighteen
She had some trouble with herself
He was always there to help her
She always belonged to someone else

I drove for miles and miles
And wound up at your door
I've had you so many times but somehow I want more

I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved

Tap on my window knock on my door
I want to make you feel beautiful
I know I tend to get so insecure
It doesn't matter anymore

It's not always rainbows and butterflies
It's compromise that moves us along, yeah
My heart is full and my door's always open
You come anytime you want

I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved

I know where you hide
Alone in your car
Know all of the things that make you who you are
I know that goodbye means nothing at all
Comes back and begs me to catch her every time she falls, yeah


Tap on my window knock on my door
I want to make you feel beautiful

I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved

So hard to say goodbye

Thank You Notes

The magic of real human experience....

...is always worth its cost. We forget this simple truth at our emotional peril.

This page is my sincere thank you to some special people who made a difference that extended beyond our experience together. I want you to know that I didn't forget, and I never will. Please start with the thank you notes below and then take a look around the site to see where I've gone with some pieces of my life that started with you. Please don't feel the need to reply, although I would value your communication.

Too much was left unsaid....

This section of the website was originally inspired by a story my father told me in January 2002. One evening while watching TV at home, he received a call from an acquaintance, Mike, whom he hadn't heard from in over 50 years. Mike called to thank my father for helping him understand how to take tests when they were both in college. Mike credited that advice with allowing him to succeed and graduate, changing his whole life for the better.

That story reminded me of special people in my life who influenced what I have become, whom I never took the opportunity to thank. If you are one of them, forgive this brief intrusion in your life after all of this time. Hey, at least I didn't wait 50 years!

One secret of happiness....

I advised both of my sons that one secret of happiness was to make the small mistakes (they give life its zest), avoid the big mistakes, and ensure you know the difference before it is too late. Some special people helped point me away from big mistakes while we shared the rich experience of some small ones. I hope the memories in this website bring you a smile.

If you enjoy this website, consider finding your own way of saying those things that have gone unsaid in your life. There is a basic human decency in saying...

Thank you for making a difference....

It may be impossible to thank everyone who made a significant difference or left an indelible mark on my life, but I'll give it a try. The notes are sorted in chronological order by when we first met.


Parents influence everything, but I thought I should mention some specifics. Having "class" in life is hard to measure, but whatever class I have I owe to my parents. Handling life's situations with class makes a real difference.

My foundation of loving travel and music are probably because you did. This website is testimony that I listened when you said to "always remember to send your thank you notes". Thank you as well for the simple, yet profound wisdom to "always leave them wanting more".


You were the first really talented musician I knew well, framing not only my appreciation of music, but also inspiring me to play it. Thank you especially for being beside me in big transitions - good and bad - and unselfishly pulling me through hard times.


You showed me by example the value of commitment to one person, which has served me well ever since. Thank you for patiently taking me to music's other dimension - dance and for building my confidence at a critical time, establishing the groundwork for both business and family.

Jim D

Good high school friends make a difference in shaping the future. You helped move me up at least one step from semi-geekdom. Remember cruising in your dad's Olds and the Freeman Press?

We also shared some genuinely classic live concert music - Pink Floyd on their "Dark Side of the Moon" tour, the Rolling Stones on their "Exile on Main Street" tour and our first live concert.

Ellen Thank you for your gift of music with a musician - art with an artist, and first experiencing the care and feeling it would take to be a family. You made everyday college struggles worthwhile, building a foundation that changed every business and personal aspect of my life.

You patiently taught me what is really important in life and what is not. My sincerest apologies for being such a slow learner. Thank you for inspiring so much magic and helping to shape the best of what I have become. What we lived together mattered and continues to reflect into many lives. enf

Terry & Marian

A friendship that started in college with a Latin American combo and a Cadillac grille and has continued for over 40 years. We share a special connection and lots of memories like late night motorcycle rides, barbeque cheese, missing lighters, the Oakland apartment, "Wizards", church & library and more recently deep sea beepers & driveway christenings.

Influences on music from Marian and house and family from Terry have changed my life and helped save my sanity in '79. Thank you Marian for always asking good questions. Thank you both for the remarkable times that we have each time we get together.

Sue I spent hours stuck in an apartment pouring over your postcards and letters from South America and Europe. It seemed so exotic and unattainable at the time. Shortly after we spilt, I started traveling, and have never stopped. In Music, I still associate you with an eclectic mix of bands and songs.

A long time ago you gave me "Hope for the Flowers", which helped shape my attitude toward career and family. I'll never forget "was there food?", cocoa, reservations, a TX7, and all the other little known facts. Thank you especially for validating the meaning of this page with the only thing better than a happy ending - act b.

Gordon & Marcia

Thank you for being there for me through young turbulent times in New Hampshire and California. I learned about how to behave in a job from Gordon and how a family works from both of you.

Mary Lou

The best girlfriend is the one who chooses me every day in the real world - my wife. We continue building a life in what has become a wild ride of over 40 years. Thank you for absolutely everything that matters.


You taught me how to do real work around the house that opened a multitude of doors, literally. Thank you for patiently teaching me plumbing, electrical, drywall, tile, stucco, and a bunch of other real-world skills.

Mike I

In business, doing the "right thing" is the lesson you taught me. That was a key to success in consulting. You were also responsible for my first elevation to an executive level staff. Thank you for taking a chance and making a difference.


Famous in your own right as an actress, you saw potential somewhere inside me with public speaking and grew my skills, ultimately providing my ticket to change businesses. To this day, I advise people wanting to get out of a dead-end job to begin with professional presentations. Thank you especially for your kind words when I left in '97 (dtkwtl).

As we undertake new journeys, toasted with a swirl of wine, I continue to appreciate your patience and guidance with my humble manuscripts and our expanding sphere of experience and friendship.


Back when I was a wage-earner for a big company, your influence got me out of my small box, in front of a large audience and built my foundation for switching businesses, which changed my life.

I have also learned about eating well and the business of restaurants from you. We seem to bring our own magic to dinners in Boston wherever we dine. Thank you for a long and continuing association that has successfully spanned business and friendship.


Your work in the early 90s inspired me to change jobs and get more involved in trying to make a difference in American industry. Your presentations set the bar for me in public speaking, demonstrating not only craft, but also commitment to your subject.

John C

In the course of other things I probably have not paused to say thank you. Your influences on business, wine, travel and art are significant and continuing.

In business, my key change occurred in leaving a big company after 20 years and joining your small company, PDC. You taught me by example how to be a consultant. In wine, you started me down the road to discriminating good from bad and solidified my interest in wine with Napa, Sonoma and Europe trips.


You were the first boss I could relate to on multiple levels. Thank you for your excellent taste in music and your business acumen that allowed me to take a first move out of my comfort zone. Also, it seems that no matter how far flung my travels are, you have been there before.


Thank you for helping me find my words and images through yours - the unique gift that a poet can offer, dealt in lyric and rhyme. Thank you for starting my new look at life's questions, distinguishing being a good man from being a nice guy, giving me peace & turmoil that won't fit in a neat box and demonstrating both the freedom and responsibility of being true to one's self. - yer oc

A final note on this page: I don't mean for these notes to seem naive or to sound like a bad Christmas card insert. There were tough times as well, many of which I owe apologies for.


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