A short, funny video about learning from the best. Thank you all for
enduring the worst. Press play below. MAC users
click here. Uses Windows Media Player.
Press play above for "She Will Be Loved" from
Maroon 5's 2004 Songs About Jane. One of the best expressions of
human connection I've ever heard. Lyrics below.
"She Will Be Loved"
by Maroon 5
Beauty queen of only eighteen
She had some trouble with herself
He was always there to help her
She always belonged to someone else
I drove for miles and miles
And wound up at your door
I've had you so many times but somehow I want more
I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved
Tap on my window knock on my door
I want to make you feel beautiful
I know I tend to get so insecure
It doesn't matter anymore
It's not always rainbows and butterflies
It's compromise that moves us along, yeah
My heart is full and my door's always open
You come anytime you want
I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved
I know where you hide
Alone in your car
Know all of the things that make you who you are
I know that goodbye means nothing at all
Comes back and begs me to catch her every time she falls, yeah
Tap on my window knock on my door
I want to make you feel beautiful
I don't mind spending everyday
Out on your corner in the pouring rain
Look for the girl with the broken smile
Ask her if she wants to stay a while
And she will be loved
She will be loved
So hard to say goodbye
The magic of real human experience....
...is always worth its cost. We forget this
simple truth at our emotional peril.
This page is my sincere thank you to some special people
who made a difference that extended beyond our experience together. I want you to know that I didn't forget, and I never
will. Please start
with the thank you notes below and then take a
look around the site to see where I've gone with some pieces of my life that started
with you. Please don't feel the need to reply, although I would value your
communication.
Too much was left unsaid....
This section of the website was originally inspired by a story my father told me in January
2002. One evening while watching TV at home, he received a call from
an acquaintance, Mike, whom he hadn't heard from in over 50 years.
Mike called to thank my father for helping him understand how to take tests
when they were both in college. Mike credited that advice with allowing him to succeed
and graduate, changing his whole life for the better.
That story reminded me of special people in my life who
influenced what I have become, whom I never took the opportunity to thank. If
you are one of them, forgive this brief intrusion in your life after all of this
time. Hey, at least I didn't wait 50 years!
One secret of happiness....
I advised both of my sons that one secret of happiness
was to make the small mistakes (they give life its zest), avoid the big mistakes,
and ensure you know the difference before it is too late. Some special people
helped point me away from big mistakes while we shared the rich experience of some
small ones. I hope the memories in this website bring you a smile.
If you enjoy this website, consider finding your
own way of
saying those things that have gone unsaid in your life. There is a basic human decency in
saying...
Thank you for making a difference....
It may be impossible to thank everyone who made a significant difference
or left an indelible mark
on my life, but I'll give it a try. The notes are sorted in chronological order by when we first met.
Parents
Parents influence everything, but I thought I
should mention some specifics. Having "class" in life is hard to measure,
but whatever class I have I owe to my parents. Handling life's
situations with class makes a
real difference.
My foundation of loving travel
and music are probably because you did.
This website is testimony that I listened when you said to
"always remember to send your thank you notes". Thank
you as well for the simple, yet profound wisdom to "always leave
them wanting more".
Kate
You were the first
really talented musician I knew well, framing not only my
appreciation of music, but also
inspiring me to
play it. Thank you especially for
being beside me in big transitions - good and bad - and
unselfishly pulling me through hard times.
Connie
You showed me by example the value of
commitment to one person, which has served me well ever since.
Thank you for
patiently taking me to music's other
dimension - dance and for building my confidence at a critical time,
establishing the groundwork for both business and
family.
Jim D
Good high school friends make a difference in
shaping the future. You helped move me up at least one step from semi-geekdom. Remember cruising
in your dad's Olds
and the Freeman Press?
We also shared some
genuinely classic live concert music -
Pink Floyd on their "Dark Side of the Moon" tour, the Rolling
Stones on their "Exile on Main Street" tour and our first live
concert.
Ellen
Thank you for your gift of
music with a musician - art
with an artist, and first experiencing the care and feeling it would take to be a
family. You made everyday college
struggles worthwhile, building a foundation that changed every
business and personal aspect of my life.
You patiently taught me what is really important in life and what is not. My
sincerest
apologies for being such a slow learner. Thank you for inspiring so much
magic and
helping to shape the best of what I have become. What we lived together mattered and
continues to reflect into many lives. enf
Terry & Marian
A friendship that started in
college with a Latin American combo and a Cadillac grille and
has continued for over 40 years. We share a special connection and lots of memories like late night motorcycle
rides, barbeque cheese, missing lighters, the Oakland apartment, "Wizards",
church & library and more recently deep sea beepers &
driveway christenings.
Influences on music
from Marian and house and
family from Terry have changed my life and helped save my
sanity in '79. Thank you Marian for always asking good
questions. Thank you both for the remarkable times
that we have each time we get together.
Sue
I spent hours
stuck in an apartment pouring over your postcards and
letters from South America and Europe. It seemed so exotic and unattainable
at the time. Shortly after we spilt, I started traveling, and have never stopped. In Music,
I still associate you with an
eclectic mix of
bands and songs.
A long time ago you gave me "Hope for the Flowers",
which helped shape my attitude toward career
and family. I'll never forget "was
there food?", cocoa, reservations, a TX7, and
all the other little known facts. Thank you especially for validating the meaning of
this page with the only thing better than a happy ending - act b.
Gordon & Marcia
Thank you for being there for me through young
turbulent times in New Hampshire and California. I learned about how to behave in a
job from Gordon and how a
family works from both of
you.
Mary
Lou
The best girlfriend
is the one who chooses me every day in the real world - my wife.
We continue building a life in what has become a wild ride of over 40 years. Thank you for absolutely everything that matters.
Louis
You taught me how to do real work around the
house that opened a multitude of
doors, literally. Thank you for patiently teaching me plumbing,
electrical, drywall, tile, stucco, and a bunch of
other real-world skills.
Mike I
In business, doing the
"right thing" is
the lesson
you taught me. That was a key to success in consulting. You were
also responsible for my first elevation to an executive level
staff. Thank you for taking a chance and making a difference.
Judy
Famous in your own right as an actress, you saw
potential somewhere inside me with public speaking and grew my skills,
ultimately providing my ticket to change
businesses. To this day, I advise people wanting to get out
of a dead-end job to begin with professional presentations.
Thank you especially for your kind words when I left in '97 (dtkwtl).
As we undertake new journeys,
toasted with a swirl of wine, I continue
to appreciate
your patience and guidance with my humble manuscripts and our expanding sphere of experience and friendship.
Stewart
Back when I was a wage-earner for a big
company, your influence got me out of my small box, in front of
a large audience and built my foundation for switching businesses,
which changed my life.
I have also learned about eating well and
the business of
restaurants from you. We seem to bring our
own magic to dinners in Boston wherever we dine. Thank you for a long
and continuing association that has successfully spanned business and friendship.
Sandy
Your work in the early 90s
inspired me to change jobs and get
more involved in trying to make a difference in American
industry. Your presentations set the bar for me in public
speaking, demonstrating not only craft, but also commitment to
your subject.
John C
In the course of other things I probably have
not
paused to say thank
you. Your influences on business,
wine, travel and
art are significant and continuing.
In business, my key change occurred in leaving a big
company
after 20 years and joining your small company,
PDC. You taught me by
example how to be
a consultant. In
wine, you started me down the road to discriminating good
from bad and solidified my interest in wine with Napa, Sonoma
and Europe trips.
Stan
You were the first boss I could relate to on multiple
levels. Thank you for your excellent taste in music and
your business acumen that allowed me
to take a first move out of my comfort zone. Also, it seems that
no matter how far flung my travels are,
you have been there before.
Laura
Thank you for
helping me find my words
and images through yours - the unique gift that a poet can offer, dealt in lyric and
rhyme. Thank you for
starting my new look at life's questions, distinguishing being a
good man from being a nice guy, giving me peace & turmoil
that won't fit in a neat box and demonstrating both the freedom
and
responsibility of being true to
one's self. - yer oc
A final note on this page: I
don't mean for these notes to seem naive or to sound like a bad
Christmas card insert. There were tough times as well, many of which
I owe apologies for.
